The birth story: Farish Isaac

And so they say it was an easy and quick labour.


Still painful you know!

I didn't know when did I start dilated. All I knew was I started to get contraction pretty early. As early as 28 weeks. I knew it was braxton hicks, the 'training' contraction or false alarm. But this one time suddenly it get pretty painful. Macam kena potong perut. But I was still at 30wks. It came few times and Mom told me to rest, bedrest specifically.

Because I just got back driving alone from Kerteh to JB! Haha. Obe was in another car as we need to brought back 2 cars to JB. The contraction came pretty regular but I just assured if takde show, pain or consistent interval then takpelah.

34 weeks

I had pretty bad perut memulas kinda thing. Macam twice in a day for 3 days. Didn't know if it was a sign, so masa first time sakit memulas I went to the toilet and push as hard as I can sampai stool keluar. But nothing came out! And the memulas came more stronger! I cried, alone dalam toilet because it was excruciating painful! And suddenly my tummy moves, Wohoooo the baby just moved himself macam nak keluar and I was shocked! I stood up immediately and wonder aku nak beranak ke?

Whatsapp my sister in law (Obe's sister) and explain everything. Asked her how does contraction feels? She told me don't ever teran dalam toilet nanti baby keluar! Definitely nak bersalin rasa macam tu. What? -_-

The memulas happened again few times but this time I managed to hold until memang betul2 ada stool baru lari toilet. I always got runny stool almost like tercirit during pregnancy so imagine la macam mana nak lari when the alarm comes?

36 weeks

Went to KL. Weehoooo! Without Mom's permission, was pretty sure she won't let me so senyap senyap we all pergi since Obe's brother held a party for his son's 1st birthday. And I have more reasons to shop! Arrived on Saturday and later at night went to A&E Tropicana Medical Centre because the baby moved less that day.

Alhamdulillah the result from CTG went well.

37 weeks

Contraction came pretty regular but not painful. Upon review I was shocked when the doctor told me I only had 5cm of amniotic fluid left, the borderline. But he told me to hold at least until 38th weeks, then by hook or by crook, he had to induce me if I am far from labor.

He gave me 26th August.

"But my mom balik on 30th" *sad face*

Hahahaha! I was pretty sure he almost shook his head.

"That is a social reason, you know" In his deep voice.


I was told to monitor the contraction and baby movement regularly. And I rest most of the time baring kira movement. We won't sit still until it was 10. As for the contraction, I just keep on timing them. Banyak aje interval 6 to 10 minutes, but it weren't painful and there was no show so we just let it be as long as the baby moves.

There were 2 times (/day) when the contraction came really strong, I had trouble getting up to the toilet for the early morning pee. Contractions were 6 minutes apart. Painful but it was bloody 5am I fall asleep obviously timing it haha.

I did asked for few opinions on the water. Mom was worried at first but she knew the doctor knew what's best for me and the baby. But she preferred a natural birth instead of inducing the little one to coax him out.

Dama: 5 is quite low Shaleen! Are you sure your doc don't want to induce you?

38 weeks, Tuesday, 26th August 2014

Knowing it might be the day, feeling overwhelmed, we woke up early and get ready, went to the hospital to get the number, off to Mamak for breakfast, went back to hospital for CTG and wait for the doctor.

He did a VE. 4cm!

Wow. That's impressing.

He did some sweep and asked me to teran as strong as I can as if I'm about to pass motion. Whoa, that's hurt. He showed me his glove covered in blood and say;

"Its going to be an easy and quick labor. Siang you bersalin"

"Oh? Besok siang?"

"Petang ni!"

*smack face*

It was 12.30pm and in a few hours nak beranak dah? For real? Nooooooooo.

"Tapi my mom sampai 10.30 malam ni" (yeah she managed to change flight)

*krik krik krik*

"Ok kalau you nak tunggu your mom, kita pecah ketuban pukul 6, so by midnight awak bersalin. Tapi kalau dia nak keluar, keluar la ye"


Went to Jusco Tebrau for lunch. Hahaha. Nak makan Nando's. Although rasa macam ala setakat 44 days confinement takat mana je mengidam makan kan. Tapi pasal pagi tu dah berangan after check up wanna do some grocery shopping before confinement starts, risau Obe beli salah barang. I mean floor cleaner dah habis. Milo dah habis. Biskut of course I need to choose myself mana nak makan kan. But the pain getting more intense there I told Obe we go straight back home after lunch and get admitted.


Reached home, had a final shower then packed everything. Salam Mama the grandmother and sempat lagi dia goreng and rebus halba for me when I told her dah start sakit pinggang.


Sampai hospital and straightaway went to the clinic. Settle all the documents and registration and was ushered to the labour room.


Finally in labour room. Sakit? Tak sakit hahaha. Hoy berlagak. I didn't know how many cm was then but the nurses keep on checking up on me and ask if I was in pain and need any pain management aka the epidural since if I need one, they need to make the call now. They put on a drip to maintain the contraction.

Hmm.. Still bearable.

I did asked Obe each time the contraction came what was the reading and try to rationalize if I can handle the intense pain later. Contraction came twice in 10 minutes, and I even dozed off a little, checking on Instagram, whatsapp-ing and whatsnot.


OMG. The pain getting more intense. I keep on asking Obe on the reading, still deciding on the epidural. He stood by me all the time, next to me and grab my hand and back. So each time the pain came I just squeeze his hand as strong as I can - well, he told me to and hey it did helped in a way. Nurse came and checking and asked me to continue breathing. Yah the breathing technique that become a joke in our family group whatsapp. Hu ha hu ha, the crazy breathing.


Contraction came twice in a minute. That's crazy. That's more than I can handle. Asked Obe to call the nurse and check my dilation. A Malay nurse came and did a VE, 6.5cm. Hah? But I need my epidural! No epidural? Please epidural, please. Told Obe to call my mom. She was scheduled to land at 6.40pm, still couldn't reach her.

We finally agreed on epidural.

But the anaest was so far from the hospital and my opening was very quick I might not able to have one if I insist. So the nurse came and discuss on another option: Pethidin. Still painful but super drowsy. Super super drowsy. Again, she assured me I was in a quick labor, I might not need one. I had a jab and went high.


The doctor came and did some VE. 8cm, good job! He broke my water bag and the pain, ya rabbi. I had the urge to poop so bad I had to kepit my legs and chants 'Tak tahan tak tahan (teran)'. Obe? Ever since I started to feel the pain and getting restless, he keep on showering me with kisses and also air zam zam which he 'jampi' a bit.

Air selusuh? I don't even get to drink my selusuh Obe made for me. Alhamdulillah few kurma dah makan when I was still smiling and happy.

Ever since then they keep on checking my vaginal opening and for crowning.


9cm. Ok 1cm more, 1cm. At times I almost kick the bed rail just to ease the pain. Its the urge to push yang tak tahan. Everything else, I don't mind. When I was told not to push (even when I'm dying to push), I feel like punching the nurses! Haha sorry. How can one tahan a giant poop meh?

"Jangan teran, nanti kepala baby bengkak!"

"Control breathing, tarik nafas, hembus. Tarik, hembus."

Seriously? What the hell was I doing the rest of the time?


Almost there. The nurses did many VEs by this time. They even helped to sweep a little bit more to speed up the opening as I only left with a little bit more on the lips. Just a teeny weeny. And they wait for the crowning.

The urge to push get so bad. Aishhhh. And I need to hold it. I did push few times pasal tak tahan (serious tak tahan), push sikit just to reduce the urge and all that went out was my amniotic fluid (or pee?).


They finally made the call. Nurses and midwives came in and prepare my bed, tools and all.


The doctor came and I did moan and said "Nak terannnnn". He came and non nonchalantly said "Hah teran lah, teran!".

Cis. Not funny.

As I was still high and drowsy, all I remembered was to just push as long as I can. We didn't attend any antenatal class and I relied mostly on the midwives to guide me. I took one deep breath and started pushing when the contraction came. I read somewhere on how to actually push;

Take one deep breath then push as long as you can. When you've lost your breath, maintain the contraction of your pelvic muscle, steal one short breath then continue pushing again.

I did that and Alhamdulillah.

I didn't know you don't have to push when the baby's head is there, it will goes out naturally. When the midwife told me to stop pushing, I was stunned a bit. 

The decision to gave birth with Dr. Tokha was the best decision ever. I was not being biased or anything, but apart from it was just 3mins drive from home under a good traffic, the doctor made our experience even better when he allowed your family to be there to witness the birth and video-recording it. Under all the pressure, Obe misplaced his Iphone somewhere but Dr. Tokha waited for him to get his phone for the video.

It was the best experience ever!

My mother in law was there. And so did Obe's aunt and his eldest daughter. There were there in the labor room and sort of hear everything. Every single thing hmmm malu. The cousin pun chickened out a bit dengar orang nak beranak kan.

The moment they put the baby on my arm after he came out was magical. My hand was shaking, my head was spinning, and there he was, in my arms. Blur, I didn't know what to do I just say "Hello Baby" and giggle a bit hahaha. Should've kiss him right away! They brought him to the next cubicle for clean up and left me with the doctor for episiotomy.

And I fall asleep while getting stitch!

When its done, they brought the baby back to me to breastfeed him, we have one hour or so before the nursery come for him. And masa ni I did experienced some nurse-macam-gomen attitude. Thought I was the only one yang perasan, rupanya Obe pun perasan. Takpelah. No biggie pun. Then they immediately changed me and wheeled me to the ward pasal ada patient lain nak masuk labor room malam tu. Ceh.

All in all, Alhamdulillah it was over. I was clueless in the beginning on what should I expect. I didn't pack my bag until 36th weeks and got panic a bit in the end tapi Obe kata, Allah akan bagi setimpal dengan apa yang kita boleh handle. Maybe it was an easy delivery for you, maybe yours were even more easier than me. All in all, Alhamdulillah. I always told Obe, its ok if I susah/sakit nak beranak as long as the baby is fine and healthy.

Here what I did which I think in a way ada tolong jugak kot;

  1. Olive oil for the first 8weeks then VCO for the rest. Liquid not capsule, every morning before breakfast then followed by 1/2 cup of delima Gulsan, diluted. Kalau tahan minyak, then takde gulsan pun takpe hihi.
  2. Being active. I don't do exercise. Takde nak briskwalking or ape because I read somewhere if  you able to maintain a healthy and active lifestyle then you don't need to exercise. I still do all the house chores except cleaning the cats' house. Gardening almost everyday, I squat a lot while gardening pasal nak cabut rumput. I totally stop gardening when I reached 9 months. By that time memang I was exhausted a bit.
  3. Fresh susu kambing almost everyday and kurma 3 biji.
  4. Air zam zam towards the end baru minum. 
  5. Bendi in the last week of pregnancy. Obe kata for jaundice. Ada orang kata for easy labor.
  6. Solat taubat, solat hajat selalu.
  7. And the usual surah to read :)
So, mari tunggu setahun lagi before pregnant lagi please!

And here, gambar Obe selfie while I was too busy handling my contraction.


Joanne Juend said…
I pushed Isobelle at 8cm opening and she is 3.55 kg. I still can feel the contraction pain until now.

Good experience kan! So, dah fikir no 2? Lols
LisaLisut said…
tau takkk sambil bava smbil i pn breath in n out. hahaha. wpn ni kali ketiga i nk branak still cuak weiii. i think i want pethidine. nk try w/out epi.hahah but will see. bestnyee ms stitch u tdooo. xskt keeee.haha.if pethidine bole buat xrs sakit ok i nk. sbb dlu ms epi mmg xrs ape ms jahit. lps epi hilang perghhh azab ya rabbi sakit dia dtg.myb big tear agaknye i dont know haha
chezzem said…
Kak Joan:

Waaaaaaaaaa!! If only I knew bole cuba2 haha. Benci contraction tu huu. Takut terconceive ni since we havent decide on any contraceptive methods yet!


Yours gonna be a smooth sailing InsyaAllah. Hihi dah ada experience kan. Pethidin still sakit tau. Mcm kurang tu takde pon. Cume die ngantuk so u wont think so much of the pain. I tertdo pn psl effect pethidin kot. Doc I mcm ada bius je kt bawah. Not so sure I tak perasan sgt haha tp mmg tak sakit. Tak pernah sakit even during confinement. Try jgn amek epi kot so u'll know when n how to push maybe kurang tear tu. Kot? Haha.

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